I hit a spell recently when I was feeling lots of confusion. I felt confused about almost everything having to do with me, my life and how I was living it. Feelings of fear and wonder associated with self-doubt, my judgments about my abilities to navigate the world, my inability to feel connected to myself and to know what to do about breaking out of the eddy I seemed to be living in.
Posts Categorized: Siama on Personal Growth
Last week my nephew asked me about meditation and what I thought about it. He said he had a lot of things swimming in his head and would “like to process and react to each thing as thoughtfully and energetically as possible.” That question created an opportunity for me to look at my evolution and relationship with mediation and why I do it.
What are emotions? When I was in India a guru told me that, “Emotions are reactions to fields of energy.” I didn’t really understand it fully then, but the more I thought about it and observed it in myself and others, the more I came to realize the truth of what he said.
If we want to grow a garden we know that it requires certain steps. It just does not happen by itself. Taking control of your life is very much like creating a garden.
Even though we may look forward to and be excited about the change, it does not necessarily mean that it will be easy. You can always count on the unexpected happening.
Everyone, no matter who they are, encounters challenges in day-to-day living. What we do with those challenges and how we see and hold them determine the quality of our lives.
Having goals to focus on is important. Frequently I ask my clients to write down their goals and put the list up in places where they can see them several times a day – the bathroom mirror, the car, the fridge etc. Visualizing your goals is also an empowered way to achieve them.
I had no idea how much it would contribute to my growth as a human being. Sounds silly, right? How could that be?
Everyone is rushing around, with lots of things to do and the belief that there isn’t enough time for everything. Tempers get short, money flows out at a faster rate, which creates anxiety, to do lists are never-ending and no one seems to be having any fun.
When we learn to love, appreciate, cherish and respect ourselves and satisfy the needs we have, we no longer need to search for that in someone else. A kind of peace and harmony with all things comes into being.
Sometimes we have no idea about our inner strengths and we put up with situations because we don’t know what to do about it. Making changes is often frightening, until we discover the nature of our fear. Life coaching creates a relationship that supports and empowers change.
In many circumstances healthy fear is essential for the survival of the body. It is a warning that something needs your immediate attention. All the other fear that we generally experience is mentally generated.
We mistakenly think that if we were richer, thinner, more talented, smarter, more successful, could do more, then our lives would be better. All of these voices make us feel bad about ourselves and hopeless about our dreams – if we still have any.
We are more attached to some of our stories than to others. We make ourselves heroes or victims depending on who we are talking to.
But what does it really mean to be free? Can a person living in a jail cell be freer than a person who is not?
Weeding the pineapple patch, like it or not?
Take a look around your house, yard, office, attic, basement or garage and see how it feels to walk into that space. What is working and what isn’t?
The greatest tool you have is to listen.
Most of the time we associate creativity with painters, writers, inventors, musicians, choreographers etc. We think that it belongs in the realm of artists of one kind or another. We go to a concert or a movie and if it’s good we frequently feel energized or altered in some way. Artistry of all kinds has the ability to move us and impact our emotions and sometimes, even our lives. What is it that makes that happen?
The Persian poet Rumi wrote, “Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there is a field. I will meet you there.”